4th Year Medicine, University of New South Wales
Perspectives on Alzheimer’s disease
Gabrielle S Cher
Thursday, August 31st, 2017
4th Year Medicine, University of New South Wales
Alzheimer’s disease is a commonly encountered pa ent case by medical students. However, many students struggle to see the person beyond the disease. This essay o ers a di erent perspec ve into Alzheimer’s disease, a deeper understanding that is crucial towards fostering more empathe c, a en ve and compassionate pa ent interac ons.
Since the start of my medical studies, I have found the disease process of Alzheimer’s disease an emotional and physiological enigma. However, it is the case of Clarice that profoundly impacted a deeper insight into the complexity of a life lived with Alzheimer’s disease.
Clarice has been living with Alzheimer’s disease since the death of her husband eleven years ago. Her family helplessly witness as she gradually loses any semblance of order and familiarity in her life. At first, she disguised her confusion through a veil of phrases, covering up her forgetfulness with laughter “Of course I knew that, I was only joking.” Alzheimer’s disease drowned Clarice within waves of confusion, muddling up her thoughts and blending the faces she was surrounded by all of her life with faces of strangers as she tried to tread water in the relentless current. She always wore a smile and came accompanied with jokes and quirky musings. She became known by eccentric catch phrases “How do you spell nachas (happiness)?” that she asked of her grandchildren. To which they answered melodiously “C L A R I C E”. At every family gathering, she tapped her glass with a fork and announced, “with tears in my eyes, I just want to say how special it is to be here, no itching or bitching, just all together, as a family.” As she left, she gathered everyone together and departed with famous final words “Go well, go shell, but don’t go to hell”.
“Go well, go shell, but –“,
“Don’t ring the bell!”
“Don’t say farewell!” her family tried to interject.
“No.” she confirmed with a cheeky grin, “Don’t go to hell!”
At Friday night meals, Clarice’s thirteen grandchildren said the Jewish blessing over food in chronological order from eldest to youngest. With much humour, Clarice would exclaim “Our Father, the holy spirit…” and proceed to tap out the cross on her body, reminding them of her rich childhood. Having attended a Catholic boarding school as a young Jewish girl, the daily prayers and hymns have stayed with her into old age. Her family loved her Zulu exclamations “saqua bona wena”, to which they replied in their own made up language, matching the sounds of her youth.
As her cognition declined, her honesty and humour sharpened and the kindness, love, and compassion that overflowed from her heart amplified. At times, her honesty was brutal, revealing hidden layers about the people surrounding her. No longer aware of social cues or the importance of privacy, she pointed out the sad man sitting by himself, or the distressed woman lost in thought. While sometimes uncomfortable, such honesty only exposed her caring and sensitive nature. She was apt at identifying someone’s hidden sadness, unbeknownst to anyone else, and quick to enquire why, offering her ear and heart.
If her family had visitors at their weekly Shabbat meals who showed signs of fragility, Clarice was the first to get up and help. “Can I help you up from the table?” “You stay put and I’ll get your food for you, what would you like?” The irony of such moments was heartrending, her ability to help those who were physically unwell when she wasn’t able, nor was anyone else, to help the illness that overwhelmed her mind.
As time gradually undid the threads that held together the clarity of Clarice’s mind, her sentences slipped into nonsensical musings. Moments of her childhood featured more frequently as she lost track of time. She referred to herself as a little girl, telling her adult children that she had to go home lest her parents worry where she was.
Yet, there were moments of pure happiness that peaked out occasionally. Her genuine awe as she watched the sunsets that showered her balcony and the raw happiness and surprise she had when her granddaughters kissed her on the cheek for a ‘selfie’, were moments of bliss. Her family learnt what made her happy and was able to tap into such experiences to change solemn moments into happier ones. The more they became desensitised to the tragedy of her illogical talk and the more they learnt how to laugh with her rather than cry, the more they were able to find joy and beauty in her quirky musings and disjointed sentences. The more they distanced themselves from her disease, the more they appreciated her presence, her warmth, and her unconditional love.
Clarice is not and never has been my patient. She is my grandmother, my Bobba. At the same time that I was dealing with the sudden deterioration of my Bobba’s cognition, I started my geriatrics placement at the hospital. The internal struggle that I felt as I grappled with my Bobba’s decline gave me a new perspective of the patients I met during that term.
Patient labels transitioned from ‘the demented old lady with delirium secondary to constipation’ to ‘the retired teacher and grandmother of seven suffering with …’. I found myself with a newfound depth of empathy and patient centered care. This gave me a greater understanding of the underlying disease processes of the patients as my passion for their wellbeing led me to deeper investigations of their conditions. The lessons I learnt from communicating with my Bobba, especially in her moments of stress and confusion, enabled me to connect to the geriatric patients with greater patience, tolerance, and appreciation. I found that I was able to implement the ‘tricks’ I learnt from soothing my Bobba to soothing distressed, agitated, and scared patients. The timing of my geriatrics placement was no coincidence but a treasured journey that transformed the blanket of grief, loss, and regret that plagued my mind, with acceptance, gratitude, and understanding. It was emotionally draining to be confronted with the exact challenges that I tried to distance myself from in my personal life every day at placement. Nonetheless, witnessing so many people in the same circumstance as my Bobba and my family also brought solace and comfort.
One moment I will never forget was walking into a very disorientated woman’s room; she was 63 years old and had early onset Alzheimer’s disease. She lay in bed with her 40-year-old daughter, who cuddled her while stroking her hair and placating her with kind words “Don’t worry mum, I’m here, everything’s going to be alright”. I left hospital that day and went straight to my Bobba’s home. Although I sensed that she didn’t know exactly who I was that day, I felt her love for me and as we sat together cuddled up on the couch, I found pleasure in the complex simplicity of love and togetherness that persists, and perhaps even strengthens, in the face of suffering and adversity.
Just like the 40-year-old daughter, I remember my own mother placating my Bobba by likening her confusion to a car ride, telling her that she can simply shut off, relax, and enjoy the ride, knowing with confidence that she was being looked after. That although she was in the passenger seat, she could trust in the fact that the driver had planned the journey meticulously ahead with love and care. When my mother suffered herself, overwhelmed by hopelessness and pain, I remember my aunty, my mother’s younger sister, telling her that it was better to laugh, to simply shut off, relax, and enjoy the ride herself. As my aunty so aptly put it, “we have to laugh, for if we don’t laugh, then we’ll just cry.”
We chose to ignore the ugliness of the disease and to find joy in the benevolent absurdity of my Bobba’s behaviour. We laughed in the lift of crowded people when my Bobba interrupted the silence singing ‘Ba Ba Black Sheep’. We laughed when my Bobba plaited my friends’ hair together as they sat on the couch. We laughed when my Bobba walked up to the stranger engrossed in her book to sit down beside her and engage in conversation as if they were lifelong friends. We laughed so much with my Bobba until we laughed so much that we cried. And I thought of all those times we ran around as small children, my Bobba warning us “too much laughter ends in crying”. Yet, now we reversed this, we turned all our crying into laughter. And we were so much happier.
Alzheimer’s disease teaches us to savour every minute spent with those we love. It sensitises us to those extraordinary moments of pure joy. It clears out the complexity of the recent past and future to make way for the serenity of the present. It peels away the shell of the mind only to reveal the perfection of the soul – what a beautiful force to be around.
Conflicts of Interest
This article was first published in the Australian Journal of Dementia Care (www.journalofdementiacare.com) Vol 5 No 6 December/January 2016-2017. Reprinted here with the permission of Hawker Publications Australia Pty Ltd.